The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times

The Places That Scare You A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times We always have a choice Pema Chodron teaches We can let the circumstances of our lives harden us and make us increasingly resentful and afraid or we can let them soften us and make us kinder Here Pe

We always have a choice, Pema Chodron teaches We can let the circumstances of our lives harden us and make us increasingly resentful and afraid, or we can let them soften us and make us kinder Here Pema provides the tools to deal with the problems and difficulties that life throws our way This wisdom is always available to us, she teaches, but we usually block it with hWe always have a choice, Pema Chodron teaches We can let the circumstances of our lives harden us and make us increasingly resentful and afraid, or we can let them soften us and make us kinder Here Pema provides the tools to deal with the problems and difficulties that life throws our way This wisdom is always available to us, she teaches, but we usually block it with habitual patterns rooted in fear Beyond that fear lies a state of openheartedness and tenderness This book teaches us how to awaken our basic goodness and connect with others, to accept ourselves and others complete with faults and imperfections, and to stay in the present moment by seeing through the strategies of ego that cause us to resist life as it is.

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  1. Ani Pema Ch dr n Deirdre Blomfield Brown is an American Buddhist nun in the Tibetan tradition, closely associated with the Kagyu school and the Shambhala lineage.She attended Miss Porter s School in Connecticut and graduated from the University of California at Berkeley She taught as an elementary school teacher for many years in both New Mexico and California Pema has two children and three grandchildren.While in her mid thirties, she traveled to the French Alps and encountered Lama Chime Rinpoche, with whom she studied for several years She became a novice nun in 1974 while studying with Lama Chime in London His Holiness the Sixteenth Karmapa came to England at that time, and Ani Pema received her ordination from him.Ani Pema first met her root guru, Ch gyam Trungpa Rinpoche, in 1972 Lama Chime encouraged her to work with Trungpa, and it was with him that she ultimately made her most profound connection, studying with him from 1974 until his death in 1987 At the request of the Sixteenth Karmapa, she received the full bikshuni ordination in the Chinese lineage of Buddhism in 1981 in Hong Kong.Ani Pema served as the director of the Karma Dzong, in Boulder, CO, until moving in 1984 to rural Cape Breton, Nova Scotia to be the director of Gampo Abbey Ch gyam Trungpa Rinpoche gave her explicit instructions on establishing this monastery for western monks and nuns Ani Pema currently teaches in the United States and Canada and plans for an increased amount of time in solitary retreat under the guidance of Venerable Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche.

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  1. As I was brushing my teeth this morning after finishing this book, this line came into my head When I find myself of times of trouble, Pema Chodron calls to me, speaking words of wisdom Let it beCorny, huh Totally true I read When Things Fall Apart over a year ago when I was going through a really rough time, and when I hit a serious road block nearly two months ago, I picked this n up In similar fashion with my reading habits of late, I only just finished this wonderful morsel I won t be stashi [...]

  2. I was at BN looking for some other book when I mistakenly picked up this one so I placed it back on the shelf and thought nothing of it The next day I went back to BN to purchase a different book and I accidently pick this same book up AGAIN SO I placed it back on the shelf the top shelf and continued looking Then out of nowhere the books from the top shelf fell on my head When I looked at the pile they were all books by Pema Chodron So, I began picking them up and when I looked at the shelf nex [...]

  3. In the current age of anxiety, Pema Ch dr n is both a refreshing and challenging voice Basically, she encourages us to see problems as spiritual opportunities Instead of trying to run from discomfort, she advocates staying put and learning about ourselves Instead of habitually reaching for whatever palliative gives relief always temporary she suggests feeling and observing our discomforts, becoming fully present in our lives, learning how to be truly here now Only through this process, she says [...]

  4. The most important part of this book is the last one, being in between That is the place where I find myself over and over again.Here how Pema explains it We are told about the pain of chasing after pleasure and futility of running from pain We hear about the joy of awakening, of realizing our interconnectedness, of trusting the openness of our hearts and minds But we are not told all that much about this state of being in between, no longer able to get our old comfort from outside but not yet d [...]

  5. took this book to read on my first jury duty summons Didn t realize I was reading a self help book until I was done Uplifting and encouraging like a little Yoda in my backpack.

  6. As someone who deals with anxiety disorder, I m always on the lookout for authors who have fresh perspectives on how to quiet the mind and ease the life of fear, and shifts from euphoria to deep depression Chodron is a Buddhist monk, and her teachings are grounded in that philosophy, but she s far from doctrinaire, and many of her teachings can be applied to regular everyday secular agnostic life Her suggestions like living in the present moment and being able to return to a calm center are idea [...]

  7. 4.5 We cling to a fixed idea of who we are and it cripples us Nothing and no one is fixed Whether the reality of change is a source of freedom for us or a source of horrific anxiety makes a significant difference Do the days of our lives add up to further suffering or to increased capacity for joy That s an important question Not much to say about this one Pema has a great way of explaining concepts relating to meditation, but I would not recommend this book to someone who is new to Buddhism or [...]

  8. This is the first Chodron book I have read, though I have always been drawn to her titles For example, I have been generally uncomfortable with uncertainty, and thought I should read that book What I love about this book is the way she describes the practices both for moving towards compassion for ourselves and others and finding a true connection with ourselves and the world around us by training in acceptance of what is This book could be comforting or terrifying depending on one s perspective [...]

  9. I ve always been leery of the self help genre I m mistrustful of anyone who tells me how to think, feel, act I ve also seen people read self help books like serial novels, always chasing some specter of an ideal self with the assumption that their current self is somehow inadequate or broken These two perspectives have always repelled me from most anything self help Pema Ch dr n s The Places That Scare You came in a time of personal need and it s been a medicine I ve enjoyed taking for dealing w [...]

  10. Patience is the training in abiding with the restlessness of our energy and letting things evolve at their own speed What are the places that scare you.For me, I had preconceived notions of places I was scared to go to, but want to go to, and need to visit now and again in order to be balanced and at peace Mainly, with the recent death of my mom, I know am afraid to visit the biggest parts of the grief but know I have to and in a big way, because I am the type of person that must look deeply at [...]

  11. I really needed this book I checked this out before the election because we read the first four chapters of the class and I wanted to read the rest However, when the election hit, I wasn t expecting the results Hate won and the place that scared me is now a reality Basically, I needed this to calm my brain down and find a way to make sense of things.I m very familiar with Buddhism My mom is very well practiced in teachings, especially ones to do with love She taught me my whole life to be kind t [...]

  12. I hate self help books almost as much as I hate sentences that begin with I It s the writing, which is uniformly poor, at least I think so Bad writing is hand holding writing I m not a dog in a collar being taken for a walk on a leash But maybe I should be.My wife gave me THE PLACES THAT SCARE YOU A GUIDE TO FEARLESSNESS IN DIFFICULT TIMES by Pema Ch dr n as a Father s Day gift I read it right away, snapping the neck of my routine reading schedule to hang by its own anxiety until dead That was m [...]

  13. I got this from interlibrary loan after really enjoying When Things Fall Apart Heart Advice for Difficult Times I would say I have the same struggles with this one feeling rather overwhelmed by much of the Buddhist lingo that permeates the text, lacking any context of it other than the explanations provided in the book But there are some parts I really liked Chapter 4, Learning to Stay, discusses living with discomfort, whether that is physical, emotional, etc I just kept thinking of a friend wh [...]

  14. A really beautiful book that makes ideas about Buddhism and meditation and the like very accessible There are a thousand quotable lines and I ve scribbled most of them down in my notebook, wanting to remember them by pressing a pen down to form the letters A great read for someone going through a tough time but also just a generally great read for anyone Because we ve all been through tough times at some point Unless you re a robot But that s besides the point and I m using humour to cover up th [...]

  15. 2.5 stars Feeling kind of Meh about this one As much as I like Pema Chodron s writing, this title seems a bit deceiving I was hoping to get a hands on, practical guide to meditation in daily life, but in Places, she seems interested in telling us all how to heal the world through loving kindness and compassion practices not that it s a bad thing, but a bit broader topic wise than I d thought I was getting Worth a read if you are interested in mindfulness meditation and wider applications for r [...]

  16. While at first glance this book might seem to be aimed towards those who have a problem with phobias, that isn t the case The places that scare us aren t necessarily actual things, but are, in fact, found in ourselves It seems that what we fear the most these days is something that simply can t be avoided a loss of security and stability We cling to things that make us feel stable, from not traveling to creating strict routines to eating pizza when we re depressed, even though we really can t ob [...]

  17. I have only started this short book but I am already blown away It was recommended to me years ago, but just now picked it up when I saw it at the library The thing about Buddhist texts is that I often find myself reading something and thinking, wow, I have missed that point all these years I don t know if I have missed them, or if I just forget and then come back to them or if I just wasnt ready to hear them the first 5 times, but no matter there are some potent thoughts in this little book One [...]

  18. I ve been reading this for a while 5 months and really can t get into it, although I love the author and her ideas definitely resonate with me I keep reading a few chapters, putting it down for a few weeks, picking it up again and finding myself lost, having to start all over I think this is a book that you come back to and read when the mood strikes, not a read all the way through book for me Definitely good, but not right for me at this time I might try it again years from nowMy inability to r [...]

  19. quotes Do I prefer to grow up and relate to life directly, or do I choose to live and die in fear Thus we become less and less able to reside with even the most fleeting uneasiness or discomfort We become habituated to reaching for something to ease the edginess of the moment What begins as a slight shift of energy a minor tightening of our stomach, a vague, indefinable feeling that something bad is about to happen escalates into addiction This is our way of trying to make life predictable Becau [...]

  20. Did I mention how much I love Pema, how as someone who, drifting through life, I found her books and felt like I had finally met someone who understood me Just when I needed help her books appeared That s how it is with the teachings Also, when you read her books and Chogyam Trungpa s books, they seem to say different things at different times in your life.

  21. This is a book that needs time to ponder, percolate, and wonder Sometimes it gets rather thick and then I needed to reread Pema Ch dr n guides you to think about yourself and what scares you and she also has you go outside of yourself and think of people you care for and people you don t care for and those you do not know I m glad I bought this book because it is full of highlights that I will refer back to for a long time to come.

  22. Pema Chodron s wisdom shines through every page of this marvelous book I have been turning to her profound words to help me during difficult times A wonderful book.

  23. So I ve read When Things Fall Apart an liked it relatively well and I d say that I probably enjoyed The Places That Scare You even , but some how Chodron just doesn t do it for me the way Thich Nhat Hanh does I think part of the problem is that her recommendations come across a little as religion rather than spirituality to me What I mean by that is that there s a palpable sense of doctrine For instance in this book Chodron offers a set of sayings that are included in an appendix and the sense [...]

  24. This book, a gift from my friend Taylor, surprised me a bit Its about balancing your inner self through a series of compassionate exercises The book talks about buddhicitta, a way of awakening yourself by walking a middle path It shows you how to sit with yourself and accept all the things that make you an individual the good and the bad Just sitting around is something I don t do often and I know I need to face up to what I am rather than just being a human doing I know I ve picked up some good [...]

  25. I believe I have read this book 3 times now and each time I take something new with me After this reading I see how much her words help me relax and be open to the truth of change This book is not just for difficult times Pema s Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times is a guide to being open to life just as it is The bonus is that we are given specific instructions on how to deal with our uncomfortable energy.

  26. Here is a book on Tibetan Buddhism, with lots of practical affirmations and insights into how to meet the difficult times in our everyday life how to build courage to face our fears This is a good book to have at home and re read it many times.

  27. This is a book that clearly explains some basic concepts in Buddhism A reference to return to again and again with clear, pertinent examples of how to find love, compassion, joy, and equinimity even in the most difficult times in our lives.

  28. The central question of a warrior s training is not how do we avoid uncertainty and fear we can t , but how we relate to discomfort A warrior accepts that we have no control over what will happen to us next.Experiencing ourselves as apart from everyone else eventually becomes a prison of mistrust We become unnerved by the possibility of freedom, and when the walls come down we don t know what to do.3 Strategies we use to provide the illusion of security, to avoid life as it is The lord of form L [...]

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